the drawing up above is correct
as a first rule
hot to hot
cold to cold
ground to ground
with an unbalanced device cold is ground
rule two
lift the ground wire at one end to avoid mains earth loops. Be consistent, lift all outputs or all inputs, not both
rule three
if the receiving device is unbalanced then ( output balanced) cold goes to ( unbalanced ) ground.
there are three different sorts of balanced outputs
transformer - this must have the hot and cold connected at the receiving end - rule three applies
servo balanced amplifier - this will shut down the cold output if it is shorted to ground and jack up the hot output 6dB to compensate - rule three applies
non servo amplifier - rule three will short out the cold output. You won't get the 6dB correction above, so you lose 6dB but rarely will the shorted cold cause any damage or other sonic issues ( sometimes a small increase in distortion at hot levels can be noted )
the cap to ground thing is a finessing of rule two, where rather than leaving one end of the ground floating or lifted it is brought to ground at the far end via cap. Say a 0.1uF ... a low value. This shunts any radio frequencies to ground and prevents the ground wire ( shield of the cable ) acting like an antenna. Call this rule four and only worry about it if you get RF pickup. It has nothing to do with the trick of connection balanced and unbalanced equipment.
rule five
sometimes you have to break all the rules to get something to work correctly and hum free.
http://www.proharmonic.com/articles/AT6 ... _BENCH.pdf